Adapted from After Life:

We must always ask: What does Jesus want from me? Who am I in His eyes? Who does He want me to be?

We start by practicing love. We should see goodness in others. That begins the process. If there's one common theme among those who have glimpsed the other side, it is that love is the final measure. In the end, much of life reduces to how much we have loved, and that means not just those in our families, not just relatives and friends, but our neighbors and coworkers and everyone we happen upon through life, even antagonists and total strangers.

One day we may learn that there was more goodness in others than we realized and that we should have loved more intently.

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is wishing everyone the best. Love is putting others first. Love is healing through the spirit. Love is touching our fellow man at the deepest level of existence and it is allowing Jesus to enlarge and take over our hearts.

Pray for Jesus to enter. Pray for Him to soften your hearts. Pray for Him to give you the great love that only He can give, because love is the real ticket to Heaven.

We should ask God to purge us of the residue from every major and minor sin. We should ask the Lord to show us what we need to attain perfection. We should assume that we are very imperfect. We should ask for examples of how we can better conduct ourselves and most importantly we should unite in love with Jesus.

During the Eucharist we break any bonds that set upon us during each year of our lives, and we plead His blood over every minute of our lives to purify and relieve us of all evil.

A mortified life is to be desired much more than a life of mystical gifts, for true sanctity consists in renouncing oneself, in constantly putting aside the ego, in allowing God to work in and with us as He wills, and to receive the graces He sends with profound humility. Had they to do it over again, souls in Purgatory would orient each day in seeking to be who God wanted them to be. They would pray to know what God wants of them. They would pray to know His will. They would meditate on who they are and who God wants them to be. They would detach themselves from all earthly things and make sure to put God far above any earthly creatures.

All must be done for God. There must be perfection. There must be indifference to everything except that which is for the Father. One must reproduce in his or her soul the conduct of Jesus. We must detach from ourselves. We must realize that earth is a place of suffering and tests and we must pass through that exile without complaint. We must rise above all earthly things, all self-love or inordinate passion, and lose ourselves totally in His will.

Every day we should pray that God's designs be fulfilled in us and that we never place any obstacles in the way of His plan. We must be united with Jesus. We must totally replace our hearts with His. We must strive never to lose sight of Him, not even for a moment. We must unite entirely.

We should pray that we desire what Jesus wills. We should let Him completely take over our hearts. We should do everything night and day for Him and Him alone. We should give up self-will for His Will and self-love for His love.

We must enlarge our hearts so that Christ can find His love in it. We must love God with the pure fervent affection of a child.